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How Self-Confidence Effects Our Lives

There are many levels of confidence

Self-confidence is frequently equated with success. Success and self-confidence often go hand-in-hand. Success leads to self-confidence, and self-confidence, in return, leads to success. Therefore it’s no surprise that we look for self-confidence as a means to boost the success of our creative business and to experience how that filters through all aspects of our lives.

We should be cautious, however, that we do not over generalize and don’t look at self-confidence as being the magic wand that’s going to make us super-successful, mega-attractive and give us the perfect life. Other than self-confidence, people generally need a combination of specific and general abilities to be effective and efficient depending on circumstances. These may include specific technical skills or techniques connected to the specific project or job you are dealing with. These may also be general skills – such as communication or other day to day skills.

Beware of Overconfidence!

Just as lack of confidence can hold us back – so can overconfidence.  In some instances, when people become overconfident and ignore important steps such as preparation and practice they make risky or bad decisions.

An overconfident person will believe they are invincible and not be prepared to learn from mistakes or ask for help.

Overconfidence can also be a negative trait in the eyes of others. An overconfident person will not ask for or listen to the advice of others. This overconfidence can have as much of a negative effect on your business life as being lacking in confidence.

Maintaining a right sense of balance and correct timing is the key. There are instances where it is better to have the humility to admit your lack of knowledge over the subject matter, seek suggestions, and invite views and suggestion of others. When all facts have been considered and all angles of the subject have been carefully studied, you can make clever judgments. This is the right time to affirm your situation with confidence.

A confident sailor will make mistakes, capsize their boats, learn from their mistakes and become a better sailor. An overconfident sailor will capsize their boat, believe that the problem lies elsewhere and continue to make the mistake, never becoming a good sailor and continually wasting time and energy righting their capsized boat.


Part of self-confidence is a general trust in oneself and a genuine liking of oneself. And this is a big part of being self-confident. Self–confidence is also synonymous with self-esteem and self-worth.

American psychologist Eric Berne used everyday language to illustrate the esteem in which we regard others and ourselves.  He says that we think of ourselves as ‘OK or Not OK’.

According to Berne, during our early lives we all go through a stage of low self-esteem where we think that we are Not OK. After a series of positive experiences, we like ourselves more and hold ourselves with high esteem where we feel I’m OK.

According to him, the great divide lies in how people generally see themselves. He saw that there are people who always affirm to themselves, “I’m OK” (i.e. high self-esteem) and then there were those whose usual view about themselves is “I’m Not OK” (i.e. low self-esteem).

This level of self-esteem may differ at any one time, depending on the situation. Attaining success in a task may increase one’s level of self-esteem. Likewise, failure or criticism may have a negative impact. Independent of these situations, some people have higher degrees of self-esteem, hence self-confidence, than others.

Therefore if you want to give your self-esteem a real boost, set yourself some realistic goals. Something that’s challenging but is also achievable. For example, set yourself the goal of creating 4 blog posts a month or a social media post a day. You can achieve this and a series of setting goals and achieving them will help to build your self-esteem. Tip: Only set goals you have control over. Financial goals mean you are dependent on others (your customers) to achieve. Set goals where you and only you are responsible for your success.

Setting yourself goals and achieving them is something you can do to help you feel good about yourself and build your self-esteem.

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Self Confidence Quest Menu

Here’s a summary of what you’ll find in each Self Confidence Quest post. Click on the link to go to the relevant page:

  • Self-Confidence For Creative Business Owners – Introduction: why does self-confidence matter for creative business owners? What are the unique challenges we face?
  • What Is Self-Confidence? – Before we dive into tips and techniques for boosting self-confidence, let’s look at what self-confidence is. And importantly, what it isn’t.
  • Change I Can’t Into I Can – An important part of self-confidence is a subtle change in mindset.
  • YOU ARE HERE How Self-Confidence Affects Our Lives – How self-confidence impacts our lives and why self-confidence and success often go hand-in-hand.
  • Self-Confidence and Ability – Why developing our skills (the know what, know why and know how factors that affect how we do things) will help to super-charge your self-confidence.
  • Positive Thinking and Self Confidence – Self-confidence and positive thinking are two sides of the same coin. Learn how to think positively to help boost your self-confidence (and if you’d like to dive deeper into how you can power your business with positive thinking, don’t forget to check out our Positive Thinking Quest.
  • Overcome Self Defeating Thoughts and Habits – Often we derail our own self-confidence with self-defeating thoughts. We give ourselves reasons why we can’t do something and therefore don’t even start. Learn how to battle self-defeating thoughts and give your self-confidence the opportunity to shine.
  • How Our Early Years Shaped Us – In order to really understand why we are lacking self-confidence, taking a look back at our early years can help to shed light on where we are now. If we can understand what has shaped our confidence in ourselves we can better understand what we need to do to address this.
  • Find Your Best Self – Well, that’s why you’ve joined us here at Best Self Quest 🙂 Finding our best self is key to becoming self-confident. If you love who you are, others will love you too. And from that comes self-confidence.
  • The Inner Filter – Learn about your inner filter. The inner filter is what stops us from believing the positive things that other people see in us. Overcome the inner-filter and you’ll release yourself from the shackles that lack of self-confidence brings.
  • Give Your Best – Give your best and let your self-confidence soar! In this post we look at tips for giving your best and how to concentrate on what you are good at and face up to the things you’re not so good at 🙂
  • Stop Making Comparisons – That’s it. Stop! Making comparisons is human nature, however, it is also damaging to our self-confidence. In this post we look at ways to stop the negative habit of comparing ourselves to others.
  • The Origins of Self Criticism – In order to build self-confidence we must stop criticism. But where does self-criticism come from? In order to stop criticising ourselves, we must know more about where it comes from and why we do it.
  • Listen To Yourself – Are you stopping yourself from being more self-confident? In this post we share a great tip for helping to understand what part we play in our own battle between self-confidence and self-doubt.
  • 15 Ways To Boost Your Self Confidence – Here are 15 ways to boost your self-confidence. Not every tip is going to work for every person. Try them and see what works best for you.
  • Friendly Inner Dialog – Stop your mind from working against you! Allow yourself friendly inner-dialog and this will help to support you in your quest for increased self-confidence.
  • Prepare For Self-Confidence – Self-confidence will come with preparation. Learn how to prepare and plan to become a more self-confident version of you.
  • Surround Yourself With Like-Minded People – Know what? Self-confidence is catching! Surround yourself with self-confident and supportive people.
  • Statements of Affirmation – Here we have some statements of affirmation to share with you. If you’ve never tried using these to help shift your mindset, now is the time!
  • The Last Word – Winding up the self-confidence quest for creative entrepreneurs!

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